AS YOU MAY NOTICE IN THIS WEB-MENU, I HAVE TAKEN ON  SOME FRIENDSHIPS WITH THOSE WHO HAVE REAL NEEDS - AND HAVE LEANED MUCH

WEIGHT ON ME - IN ADDITION TO MY SPIRITUAL CALLING IN GOD TO WRITINGS AND WEBSITES, WHERE I'M GIVING OUT TO OTHERS MUCH OF THE TIME.

 HAVING FRIENDSHIPS WHICH WERE NOT MEANT FOR ME, HAS DEPLETED ME CONSIDERABLY AT TIMES. EVEN AFTER LOSING MY MOTHER 

and SISTER and BEST FRIEND TO JESUS ( within six months 2017) SOME FRIENDS HAVE BEEN INSENSITIVE TO MY NEEDS.  CLEARLY, THE LORD DID NOT WANT THIS FOR ME. I AM PLACING A FEW PAGES IN THIS MENU TO HELP MY READERS - PLEASE LEARN TO KNOW WHICH FRIENDS ARE

RIGHT FOR YOU AND WHEN SOMEONE IS NOT. IT CAN MAKE A LOT OF DIFFERENCE. PLEASE UNDERSTAND, I AM NOT SAYING WE SHOULD NOT BE COMPASSIONATE - SOME OF US NEED WISDOM WITH COMPASSION. PEACE TO ALL.

PAGES THAT ARE COLOR-CODED WITH RED PRINT AT THE TOP - THEY ARE NOT MEANT FOR YOU. THESE PAGES ARE TO RELEASE PRESSURE FOR THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN LIVING WITH FRIEND'S DEMANDS. THE PAGES WITH BLUE PRINT MAY BE FOR YOU, THEY ARE GENTLE AND MILDER. CONCERNING FRIENDSHIPS, I WISH TO HELP CHRISTIANS IN DIFFERENT WAYS.


HELPFUL POEMS

Do Be Careful With Some - Choose Wisely Your Friends - Kindly Tell Them

Do Be Careful With Some

Some people are not content

with their choice of friends

If you're not quite what they want

they wish to change you

and rearrange you.


They remind me of someone

who liked a house and the garden

but they disliked the furnishings within.

They seek to put their pictures up

yours aren't good enough

so they take them down.


But you are Jesus' precious treasure

He really loves us in full measure.


He gives giftings to express and explore

aim for friends who respect you more.

Make known your wishes before they make theirs

do this carefully, this would be wise.


Let not the wicked drive me away

in the Arms of Jesus, I wish to stay.

For they seek to disturb through friends

do not your ears lend.

Make an Inner and Outer Circle

of those you can trust and those maybe not.

For this process, be not in a rush.


Jesus had His Inner Circle

some old and new friends prove to be hurtful.


Take time deciding how close you will be

not so quick in taking liberties.

Trust your Maker, this makes for Peace greater

Ask Him to help you in your decisions

your thoughts will less often be in derision.


Some friends are alright for Outer Circle

you should not include them in your Inner Circle

(sharing precious things)

Inner Circle is for those you can trust

they don't seek to change you

and they do not fuss.


Think I will try this exercise

some believers and friends have stepped out of line.

Friends don't have to be perfect

but they can go too far

Trust Jesus for True Friends that will last.

You do not have to impress them

or strive for their favor

they are truly genuine in nature.


You can build a relationship with them

give this time, let your spirit mend.

Some seek to rearrange this and rearrange that

but some are friends for life

Those friendships last.

"Peace to All"


Janet Vargas © 2018

Choose Wisely Your Friends

Some friends seek to play a dominant role

this is not beneficial to our soul

'Cause it makes us feel less than whole

when things are building up to a toll.


A toll on us spiritually and also naturally

Yes it isn't healthy for we must feel free.


Free to be ourselves. not kept on a shelf

Look after your health, your wishes should be upheld.


A friend for life is one without strife

When you choose to confide, let your choice be wise.


Others want you to play a counselor's role

this can really build up to a toll

They don't want your advice

they want to suffice

by getting you down and you wear a frown.

(instead of them, so to speak)


Yes freedom with friends is what I will choose

friendships are not for feeling blue.

This could be the beginning of something new

some make poor choices, why should this be you?


Janet Vargas © 2018

Kindly Tell Them

Some people can be real energy zappers

they're not happy until they chatter.

It would be alright if they told you once

merciless repetitions are no fun.


Can you take some wise advice?

they seek none, that is no surprise.

Do not help them dig a grave

this is not beneficial, the wise man says.


They'd do well to seek after God's attention instead of yours

It would be better for them and make for less chores.


For Scripture says to be careful with the words of our mouths

Sometimes they do not hear this even if you were to shout.


Have you heard of being cruel to be kind? 

don't let their words get out of line.

Counsel them with Scripture and give them a picture

That they need to be careful instead of a handful.


Explain that you were not created

to take both your weight

so take it to Jesus for both your sakes.

For His shoulders are bigger than ours -

to send their requests up on a glory cloud.


It is not right that they should over-impose

when God is so much more able - His Grace to bestow.

If they would just go to Him instead of sisters and brothers

The answers' with Him, that is with no other.


So limit their chatter this really does matter.

Miracles in the making for those forsaking

poor choices in speech encourage them to seek

The Face of God on this earthly sod.

What Joy restored, I wish for more.


Janet Vargas © 2018

HOW EASY IT IS TO FORGET THINGS THE LORD SHOWS US AND LEADINGS HE GIVES US AT DIFFERENT TIMES. SOMETIMES WE CAN BE BETTER AT

RECOGNISING SOME-ONE ELSE'S NEEDS THAN OUR OWN. I WAS SHOWN THESE THINGS IN 2018 BUT MADE AN EXCEPTION FOR SOMEONE I WAS FOND OF 

WHO NEEDED SUPPORT. OUR COMPASSION CAN OUTWEIGH COMMONSENSE IF WE'RE NOT CAREFUL - TWO YEARS LATER I'VE HAD TO MAKE 

A NECESSARY DECISION I SHOULD HAVE MADE THEN. WE COULD POSSIBLY CONTACT EACH-OTHER LATER less often THAT WORKS FOR SOME PEOPLE.  I DID HOWEVER, TELL THE OTHER SISTER IN CHRIST THAT I COULD NOT KEEP RELATING WITH SOMEONE WHO WISHED TO REARRANGE ME (she wanted me to take up her interest instead of websites because she doesn't like technology - can you imagine that?) FRIENDS, KNOW WHAT'S RIGHT FOR YOU, WHO'S RIGHT FOR YOU and TRUE FRIENDS WILL LIKE YOU AS YOU ARE. THEY DON'T FIND A NEED TO CHANGE YOU (they're missing something in themselves - not sure what it is). CHEERS!

What My Readers Are Saying

We have a saying in Jamaica: Show me your friend and I will show you who you are. I've seen sometimes when something is happening with a good friend, it is because of someone (or others) they keep company with. Our parents and grandparents teach us these things from a young age and we can recognise if someone is affecting our emotional state when we grow up - we say, oh that's why.

 Carlette from Jamaica

Things that stand out to me here are to avoid needs orientated friends who expect too much..... it's all about them instead of the friendship and relationship that you share. They give me negative energy.  I like those friendships because they give you a positive outlook on life and positive Energy.

Denise from Jamaica

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